tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6988729.post112605893769069869..comments2024-03-27T11:42:47.601-04:00Comments on Another Monkey: Dealing with it, Part 3: GuiltD.B. Echohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01797128570217627410noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6988729.post-1126814500323896922005-09-15T16:01:00.000-04:002005-09-15T16:01:00.000-04:00Dearest Harold, this blog made me cry. I know you...Dearest Harold, this blog made me cry. I know you and I have been talking about guilt alot lately.<BR/><BR/>You have nothing to feel guilty about. I could tell you that till I am blue in the face, and yet, you will still feel it.<BR/><BR/>As you said, it is the way we are.<BR/>For better or for worse.<BR/><BR/>I also think that it is the path we must walk with our grief.<BR/>Could I have done, this, that, this ,that different. We all did that after my Dad died. Even tho we took care of him for so long. We still felt guilty.<BR/><BR/>You and I need to chat about this wehn we can do it uninterrupted.<BR/><BR/>I wonder what our psychologist friend would have to say about it?<BR/><BR/>I think i shall e-mail it to her.<BR/><BR/>By the way...Lorena, the answer is no. I never gave Harold any roasaries.....LOL!!! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6988729.post-1126113459707255952005-09-07T13:17:00.000-04:002005-09-07T13:17:00.000-04:00You must have faith and believe in fate to continu...You must have faith and believe in fate to continue your life as your loved ones here and passed want you to. I believe everything is fated to happen for a reason, and no matter what you could have done differently the fate would somehow remain the same. I know the kind of person you are and that you went beyond the care and thoughtfulness of most people. When my Grandmother and Mother passed away within 3 months of each other - one during Christmas Holiday week, the other on Palm Sunday, someone told me that my mother and Grandma could now be whatever age they want and do whatever they want now and eat whatever they felt like having - like fresh ripe homegrown tomatoes in the middle of February, and they could hear a Robin or a Cardinal or a Dove sing at their whim and they could now walk or run or dance (both had severe arthritis). They aren't missing anything - not even you. Remember are always with you. <BR/><BR/>Just a question - and you could mention this to her - Betsy didn't make you any rose quartz rosaries, did she... :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6988729.post-1126066465026140732005-09-07T00:14:00.000-04:002005-09-07T00:14:00.000-04:00I hope things get better for you. I've read your ...I hope things get better for you. <BR/><BR/>I've read your posts for a while and I find it hard to believe that you have any more reasons to be hard on yourself than other people.<BR/><BR/>Guilt's way over rated in my book anyway. Do your best, apologize when you do wrong, try to make amends, then get on with life. There's way too much good to be done to waste yourself on guilt. <BR/><BR/>Good luck.<BR/><BR/>As always.<BR/><BR/>Suuuper GSuper Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09241130161232746471noreply@blogger.com